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2) you show the x-side and say "try a different way" (or "please don't" or whatever). This is a soft move to show that you don't like the way things are headed.
Do you kick someone out for having a different gaming style?
Trusting people not to be dicks in games is something I don't think anyone has yet solved. Yes, you can kick them out pretty quickly but it seems a little harsh for a single infringement and a tough subjective decision if the level of dickery is borderline. I think we all have seen that 'one player' who makes us grimace but is not actually yelling bigotry or bullying people. Do you kick someone out for having a different gaming style?
I think "fade to black" is a FANTASTIC technique (and so easy to understand!).
I must ask how fade to black is related to the topic. Is it a way to avoid descriptions that might cause discomfort? And in that case, isn't there a risk that that might cause equal levels of discomfort (as people make up the images in their heads anyway)?
I am sure nobody disagrees that veils, lines, etc. are safety procedures and that they fit certain situations.
Do you see any reason why "fade to black" couldn't be used to avoid uncomfortable material, though?
... I'm not aware what an X card is, tho it sounds like a retcon mechanic which, if so, wouldn't have been appropriate for us).
I’ll make three separate points in one post:
First, just as a curiosity: the boxed story game Untold uses a “play/pause” card for O resp X, which I thought was interesting. As posters here know, I’ve been kinda anti the X card [not because I didn’t want safety but because the X card wasn’t enough for me, pre-therapy. I can handle more unsafe play now], but seeing it expressed in those terms, and in such a mainstream game, made me want to reevaluate it.
1 card, 3 functions, of 2 different natures. I call it frugal and I love that.
The Design of Everyday Things teaches that every function needs its own interface. Things should be as simple as possible but not simpler. Having two different functions on the X side (lifting it vs putting it on the table) is hard to remember and confusing. Having two different symbols with nonobvious meaning (the X side vs the O side) is hard to remember and confusing. Having a non-complete option matrix (1A holding up X side, 2A putting X side on table, 1B holding up O side, 2B ????) is also confusing.
Third I’m glad I read Jasons article because it was good. Hopefully these techniques will make it so that people don’t actually have to ask each other the eponymous question.